In life, even with lower animals, the male folks love to attract their female other half with different natural endowments, steps, swags, or sweet sways; the peacock would regale in its full bloom plumage as he takes calculated cocky steps to attract the peahen; the pigeon would spread out and dance while reeling out a sonorous sound to maim the mind of its pair; the canary would sing in a beautiful tone with a professional yodeling touch; all for to get her. But with Mr cock? The story is different. His counterpart does not fancy any of the aforementioned blending modes rather, a gut splitting adrenaline chase turns her on. Average men are not left behind. They would go to any length to get any lady they want. They would tell lies, spend and be spent, call morning, noon and night and generally be at her beck and call. Here-understated are the 7 mistakes guys make with ladies in trying to win their hearts.
7 Mistakes Natural Guys make With Ladies
Mr Nice Guy
“Hey, here is a girl I really like! I’m going to try to win her heart by buying her attention and be there for her generally!” Oh gross, wake up gee!
Ladies don’t base their choices of men on how nice they are. You can buy her heaven and earth, do all her assignments as a student, help her with all the official work in the office, take care of all her needs and be there for her generally, this wouldn’t get you anywhere near her bra let alone her heart attractively. These attributes rather make her see you as a weakling( been at her beck and call), brother or maga( spending fool) etc. Your trophy for all these troubles? Friendzone, Brotherzone, Muguzone or Magazone! Take a pick. Sad. So sad 😠😠 They choose guys because they feel a very powerful attraction for them and being nice doesn’t make a lady feel that kind of attraction. This doesn’t make any sense but it is how it is. You can read more about this crazy phenomenon checking our why nice guys gets friendzoned and bad boys vs nice guys . You would be amazed how the mind of a woman works.
Trying To Convince Her To Like You.
What do most guys do when they meet a girl they like and she doesn’t feel the same way?; they try, however awkward, to convince her to feel differently and have a change of mind.
” Babe, give me a chance. Let me take care of you and spoil you with gifts and love. I want to be able to sing you lullaby as I lull you to sleep. Wake you up in the morning with a thousand kisses, declare your love to the heavens and write your name in lyrics across the radiant colours of a beautiful rainbow. Just please let me. Just one chance”
Sorry to burst your bubbles lover boy; YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN FEEL BY BEING PERSISTENT IN TRYING TO CONVINCE HER rather you would just end up irritating and annoying her. The more you try, the more you drive her off. Sad state son. Very sad state.
Trying To Buy Her Attention With Food And Gifts
This is a default mode with average guys! They want to spend to impress hoping that she see what she stands to enjoy if she says yes! The funny yet unfortunate thing is that; she would, like an hungry electorate, eat your money, collect your gifts and still not agree to roll with you. How many times have you bought things for a lady and she rejects you for someone not nearly as nice as you? Yea, a lot of times! Kindly note that most cool ladies see this as a sign of unnecessary compensation for insecurity and weak attempts at manipulation. Only a mentally weak man throws money at every little challenge without sitting down to analyze and deploy the appropriate method.
Thinking That All It Takes Is Money And Good Looks
This is a mistake all average guys make. Most ladies are interested in far more than a man’s looks and wallet. There are certain personality traits that are like magnets to women and if you just know how to use them, you can win any girl’s heart. Confidence, Crazy sleek sense of humour, been in charge( manly aura), impeccable diction/good command of English, Neatness, Sendless and the likes are what tilt/tune the attraction nob of a lady’s heart towards you.
Asking A Lady Out
In all my years of coaching boys in the ways of men, this is one area where a lot of guys struggle in. No matter what I tell them, they just want to toll the usual track, get it off their chest and ask her out. Put an official endorsement on it. This, they subconsciously, wrongfully reason, would shunt the distance between meeting and mating! Little did they know that gone are those days where girls are easily swayed by the sexy gift of a sleek gab. Girls fully know now that if they accept, the next thing is your bed and once you’ve had it, you can easily just move on with no qualms. So they deploy delay tactics( if they are getting financial gains from you) by asking you: ” Don’t you think you are rushing things? Let’s get to know each other first.” or they would say: “I really like you and I don’t want to spoil this friendship we share.” or ” I would think about it” or “you would have my answer in six months”. However, If they are not getting any benefits from you, they would out rightly tell you off without baiting an eyelid.
Asking a lady out is an act of tautology. There is nothing you feel she doesn’t know already just by looking at and chatting with you.
Asking a lady out puts you at a disadvantaged spot. A state of limbo where you effectively hangs her your balls to squeeze however she so pleases. You are now at her mercy. 99% of the time, NO would be her answer.
Handing The Control Knob To A Girl
A lot of average guys make the mistake of trying to get a girl to like them by doing everything she wants or tells them to do all in the name of being caring and romantic. Arrrhhh! This is not you being caring, it is your being manipulated and you willingly yielding because you think there is a trophy to be won by being loyal. Wrong! Ladies are not attracted to weaklings. Ladies want a guy that knows what he’s doing and can lead her and his household. Tell her NO when necessary, instruct her if need be and live his life sendless
Taking Everything She Says At Face Value
Blessed is the man who is able to see through the words of women, dissect their words and fish out the hidden meaning/message buried therein. To Understand how the mind of girls work, read this post : Girl’s green lights. Last year, I received a message from a lady. She wanted me to advise her on the best way to tell her boyfriend that she cheated on him because her conscience was pricking her. She told me that she had to test the waters by telling her guy that she had a sit out with one of her guy friends. Nothing serious, they just had lunch. She said you needed to see how the guy flared up on hearing that. This made her withdraw into her shell and never opened up to him again. See how their mind works? What has cheating confession got to do with sitting out? You asked? Oh well! Welcome to the would of women!
He Cannot Be faithful Mixing Meal
Here is another real life story: I, Don Juan, met a lovely lady a long time ago. We sat out and had lunch for the first time. My usual way, I ordered swallow with mixed soup. Long story short, three weeks after we got so cozy, we were just goofing around, guess what she asked me!: “D, do you remember the day we had our first date?”, I was thrown off balance because I knew my answer and her next line would not be funny. I answered, ” of course! how can i forget the day you seduced me with lunch and one small cup of ice cream? oh God how can I be so cheap?”. She laughed and went on: ” That is not why I asked. Did you remember you ordered mixed soup? In my mind, I thought, since you can’t have one soup, you cannot be faithful to one girl!”. Guys, I was thrown off rail.
Stop been a nice guy( placing a lady’s want over yours) and start sending ladies less. For the more they know that you are always there for them, the less likely they would ever feel attracted to you. Buying food/gifts would get you a nice brotherly hug and a place in the eternal prison of friendzone. Instead of asking a lady out , start talking/ACTing like her boyfriend( more on this later)