Do So, How to Build Self Confidence? Before you can conquer the world, you must first conquer yourself for what happens around you is nothing compared to what happens inside of you.
Sense Pill: Wars are, first, won in the mind.
To appreciate the power of the mind, look around you; consider all the wonders of mother earth – the magnificent edifices, the beautiful metals that fly in the skies, and all the man-made miracles! They were, at a point in time and for a moment, nothing but intangible thoughts. What you think about defines, to a large extent, what you are and become. Confidence, just like failure or success, is a product of the mind.
Based on the foregone, it can be deduced, without equivocation, that life is anchored on the mind. It is therefore expedient you get armed with the principles of the mind and in essence, boost your inner man.
Sense Pill 3:
Nothing as magnetic as a man sure of his steps, certain of his worth and in absolute control of his raving-prone balls.
Self Confidence in this context is two-pronged:
a. Yourself: being fully aware that you are a plus to anyone you meet. You are like raindrops on the lips of a lonely desert. The first kiss of the sun’s ray upon the petals of a longing rose.
b. Words: you know how to read people/situations, fit the right words together and flow them without taking a blink i. e. knowing what to say and how to say it( Quick wit- mental cleverness)
To be confident in life generally or around ladies, your inner man( the giant in you) needs to be woken up for it is a thing of the mind. How do you achieve that? Well, there are certain physical and psychological boosters. In this section, we will deal with physical boosters only. Kindly find the psychological ones here
SELF CONFIDENCE BOOSTERS (PHYSICAL)
a. Personal Hygiene
b. Sleek fashion sense
c. Voice tone/relaxed/collected personality
d. Impeccable diction/good command of Words
e. Fun/attractive aura
f. Quick wit(Good Sense of humour)
g. Body language
h. Proud of your Balls/guts/wits
i. Always be first to round talks off(Never act clingy)
j. Create Your Reality and Live in it
k. Be Your Own Man
l. Most importantly YOU! You were made to lead and the symbol of your authority is nothing but your BALLS. We focus on YOU in this Drill
We will consider each of these boosters one after the other, on separate posts, because they are the bedrock upon which your life generally rest
Sleek lines, poems, impeccable diction can be improved upon by reading loads of fun novels, great newspaper articles, books, and watching cable news (CNN, BBC, Watch BBC learn English on youtube and download its app also). You would improve your ability to write poems by robbing minds with poets but nothing would beat the divine touch of an inspired soul.
Great leaders are voracious readers as some others are, the only difference is that they don’t just read nodding their heads. They read taking notes of important points and extrapolating such knowledge into real-life scenarios.
Furthermore, If u can take care and get your guts( confidence) rev on, the sleeping giant in you would awake and take charge. You become what you constantly think of, so think and talk positively. If you didn’t know, 80% of our conversation is none verbal.
They say what happens inside is what matters not what happens outside. Here I am with a different gospel: the inner man can only grow guts if you got these 8 boosters fired on.
Don’t just think with respect to ladies alone, but use these to grow your confidence in life generally.
Like I told you, these drills are life anchors and ladies are a little part of the big puzzle. So, when you feed them, exercise them, they can’t but grow muscles and stand up for you when all around you seem to fail.
Having said that, I would love you to tell me about your weakness(es) around ladies. Yes, let’s hear what aspect of your life you would love to improve upon in the comment section below. Are you shy? Can’t start a conversation with a new lady? Moreover, do you run out of steam when chatting or talking on the phone with ladies? Let’s hear it. Because I can assure you that it would soon be history.
Next, we would dissect the first confidence booster: Personal Hygiene